Feeling Very Very Alone & Overwhelmed

18 04 2008

I need to vent….my granny is turning 80 and I’m throwing her a surprise party…not sure if I’ve mentioned that on here or not….But…I’m getting very very frustrated….when I mentioned (back in December)  that I was going to throw her a party…my mother’s response was “Good…I thought I should probably do something but if you’re going to, that’s great.”…so January I send out letters to all her friends & family letting them know I’m planning this surprise party and I sent them all little white notecards and asked them to decorate them, and I was going to turn them into quilt squares…on my uncles letter I made a note that I’d really like a family photo of him, his wife and their two sons, so I could include it on the quilt….I told him he’d get the original back, or he could just email it to me…yeah, no picture EVER came…they decorated the quilt squares, although only one did they actually put effort in….the rest were like dots or lines…stupid stuff…so, my mom was suppose to put up flyers about the party so people could come who I don’t know…(hard to find people to invite when you can’t ask the guest of honor and you’ve only been alive for a little over a fourth of her life.)…So, I sent the same letter to her two surviving sisters & cousin…all three sent me precious pictures of their childhood and each sent money, between 10 and 25 dollars, a piece….now, these ladies are all approaching 80 themselves, and are living on social security, with very little extra money, however, each contributed to make it a special day…

 

My older brother, didn’t even decorate his quilt square, he had me do one for him, my mom did hers on the computer and emailed it to me….now my mom, my two brothers, my aunt and uncle have not one…not once…offered money to help…however they all tell my grandmother how much she’s done for them…she helped raise all 5 grandkids, and of them I am doing everything, my youngest cousin is going to help decorate only because I asked if the two cousins would like to be included & help…oh, and I have to give him a ride to the church, because they’d be too much trouble for the parents…I would think if someone was throwing my mother a birthday party, I’d at least offer to help, somehow…

 

Just very very frustrated. Everyone wants to say how much they love her, but where the heck are they when there is non-glamorous work to be done??