F**king, Blogging and our Society

7 05 2008

(If you have a blog on wordpress.com, you can skip this first paragraph) On wordpress.com when you have a blog, you have what’s called a “dashboard” and basically it’s your homepage, that let’s you write new post and edit the old ones and it also has Blog Stats, which shows you how many people visit each post, and what sites referred them to your blog. Like, if it was a google search it’ll show you what the person searched for in order to get to your page, or if they were referred from another page, it’ll show you what web address referred them.


I’ve always found the Blog Stats very interested…it’s very intriguing to see what the rest of the world is searching for…it’s a way of being a fly on the wall, while people are web searching…Now, the reason I bring this up is a few weeks ago I did a post named Lovemaking vs F**king….now, that was on April 15th …I’m still getting people linking up to it…you’d be amazed how many people are searching for “Fucking” on the internet…kind of scary…in fact, that link has got more than 3 times more hits than any other page on my blog…hmmm…


…and then I had one, where someone had googled (and I’m paraphrasing here) that she’d slept with someone on the third date and wants to know if he loves her (and I won’t even get started on how to properly search for stuff…that much info in a search block, I’m amazed you ever found ANYTHING relevant…Any whoo)…now, first off…no one loves anyone on date #3…you don’t know each other well enough for that…J and I knew each other for almost 2 years before we started dating, and by date 3, I still would not have said it was love…lust maybe, interest maybe, but not love….2nd off, if you really want a shot at a real relationship…you should probably be evaluating the relationship BEFORE you sleep with him…as the old cliché goes, why buy the cow if you’re getting the milk for free…very much applies here…besides, if you’re not sure what the relationships status is…really really, let me advise against sleeping with the guy…until you figure it out…if all he wants in a bed-buddy, and you’re good with that…then by almost pursue, however, if you’re interested in more, and he’s not…then end it now…it’ll save you pain later on….and no matter what you’re thinking…women are really bad at keeping things “Just Physical”…we really do have a tendency to get emotionally involved…trust me, I’ve tried…didn’t work…fortunately, it worked out in the end, I’m friends with the guy…but my sleeping together twice…we almost ruined a great friendship, before it ever really got started…just don’t do it!!!


I also have a lot of people who apparently have been hurt by their spouses addictions to pornography (for my frequent readers you know my ex-husband had that problem)…for them, all I can say, is my heart goes out to you…I can’t really give you any advice, except to follow your heart…if you think your spouse can work with you to change your relationship and to stop their addiction, then by all means go for it…but if deep down you know, that it’s never going to work out (I would have fallen into this  category), then do yourselves both a favor and end it now.


What really scares me, is that I have so very few people that link to my website by tag words like “love” or “relationship” or “happiness” or any of those other happy words…they find my blog by “sex” and “fucking”…I think it says something about the world we are living it…maybe if we spent more time working on our relationships and trying to find love, instead of some one to fuck…maybe, just maybe this world would be a much much better place.


(Psssttt…for anyone out there trying to get their blog some more traffic…add in the words fuck and sex…and you’d be amazed how much traffic you’d get 😉